How To Give A Sensual Massage
One of the best ways to enhance a romantic night with your partner is by giving them a sensual massage. This is especially so if the intimacy and passion in your relationship has started to fade.
When you touch your partner gently, their worries melt away, and your bond will have space to grow. A sexy massage demonstrates your commitment to spending time with your partner, putting energy into their happiness and showing them that they are essential to you.
So, let’s explore how to give a massage to the most important person in your life!
Setting the mood
Lighting
Lighting sets the mood for every event. Fluorescent or bright lights can make a massage uncomfortable. Whereas soft and warm lighting sets a romantic and sexy tone. If your light switch isn’t adjustable, try some scented candles (see below) or a small pack of fairy lights. Failing this, go completely dark and let your sense of touch guide proceedings.
Music
Keep your heavy metal and punk mixtapes for your mates. Muzak, reggae, slow jazz, lounge and the blues should happily see you across the line. Soft instrumental pieces work well, too, as do natural noises like rain on a roof or the sounds of the night forest.
Try these Youtube tunes if you are stuck;
Scented Candles
Be sure the room you choose doesn’t smell of dirty socks or chicken curry. The best way to achieve this is to open a window and light several scented candles or an essential oil/camphor diffuser.
Here are some that we recommend on Amazon;
Fancan Scented Candles
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Taste
While this isn’t essential, a lovely glass of wine or a small bunch of sweet fruit isn’t going to go astray. Neither is a can of whipped cream when things start to heat up.
Touch
Trim your nails and warm up your skin before you start by rubbing your hands together. Good massage oil will also help in this department.
Where
Choose the quietest room in the house with a comfortable bed. Failing this, a soft couch should do the trick. If there are other people in the house, give them a heads up to be quiet for an hour and lock the door behind you.
When
A massage is a great way to relieve the stress of a day, so set it up after work and when you have no other responsibilities left for the day.
Where should you massage your lover?
Ask them first! They are the ones who know where they are tense and sore. Pay special attention to these areas, though be sure to stop if your partner becomes uncomfortable.
Fingertips and Palms
While your fingers are the toughest parts of your body, they are also very sensitive to the touch because they are full of nerve endings. A great spot to massage if your partner spends a lot of time on a keyboard or in a manual labour job.
Head
Massaging the top of the head will create a relaxing sensation. It also stimulates circulation to the area, which will wash away stress and reinvigorate your partner’s energy. The face should also be given special attention as it can help keep the skin tight and the wrinkles away.
Back
The back contains a lot of large muscle groups that can become knotted and sore, especially after a long day of physical activity or sometimes just from sitting. Stimulating the back through massage will increase blood flow to the area, which will relieve your partner’s tension and will help them sleep more comfortably.
Feet & Legs
Almost all of us are on our feet all day, which means our bottom half, quite literally, carries the entire load of our body. A good dose of TLC down there will go a long way. Be sure to get your partner to shower before your massage their feet, so the area is clean to touch.
Buttocks
A very under massaged area. Pay your partner’s bum special attention, especially if they spend a lot of time sitting during the day.
Ariola and nipples
If you are looking to turn things sexual, finish your massage by rolling your partner onto their back. After massaging their belly, work your way up to their breasts and nipples to get their juices flowing.
Massage Oils
A good quality massage oil is the key to a sensual massage. They are infused with essential oils that will relieve joint and muscle pain, improve circulation, help with sleep and boost your immune system. Not only that, but they provide lubrication which means you can push harder without the skin grabbing.
If you can’t afford a good massage oil, there is absolutely nothing wrong with using olive oil, sunflower oil, cocoa butter or coconut oil. Yes, you read that right! But if that isn’t your thing, here are our top Amazon suggestions;
Maple Holistics Aromatherapy Sensual Massage Oil
This product is excellent for anyone with sensitive skin. The relaxing lavender aroma combined with almond and jojoba oil makes it the perfect accompaniment for the most sensual of massages.
This product was quite literally formulated for sensual massage. It has a tropical scent that sets a holiday mood along with the benefits of natural oils that will do your skin wonders. Also, no animal testing!
Seven Minerals Sensual Massage Oil
A luxurious blend of sweet orange, Vitamin-E, lavender, almond and jojoba makes for a romantic aroma that will soothe the nerves and set the mood instantly. This oil is easily absorbed by the skin and won’t stain your sheets!
Basic Techniques For A Sexy Massage
Now that you have some top-notch oils in your arsenal, it’s time to learn the best techniques for giving a sensual massage.
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Sensual massage is a powerful tool that will keep intimacy alive in your relationship. It is equally beneficial for both partners because it speaks the language of love, passion and intimacy. Be sure to spend some time setting the mood before you invite your partner in for a sexy massage. And make sure you are using a good quality massage or cooking oil to really amplify your touch.
Technique will come with practice. So don’t stress if you feel clunky or awkward at first. Your partner is sure to appreciate any efforts you make. If you want to take your skills to the next level, try searching your local area for a school that will teach you how to give a massage.
