How to Turn a Woman On

If you find turning your woman on harder than mastering an Xbox controller, you’re not alone! Many good men struggle to arouse their partner sexually because they were never taught what turns a woman on. Same-sex couples rarely struggle with this issue the way heterosexual couples do, which says it all.

Lucky I’m here to give you my top 10 tips for making a woman melt in your hands. Follow this guide, and she’ll give herself to you—again and again and again.

#1 Mind Sex

Before you jump to the physical action, you need to have sex with her mind first. Women find an emotional connection extremely sexy. Ask her about her day, her dreams and aspirations, and what she’s been thinking about. It doesn’t need to be particularly deep; you just need to listen with bated breath, knowing that she is getting hotter by the moment. 

#2 Compliment Her Appearance

Take a moment to notice her natural beauty and tell her why you find her so attractive. Tell her that her eyes are warm and inviting and that you could look into them for hours. Or that her lips are sexy and soft, which makes you dream of kissing them all day long. The more you compliment her, the more confident she’ll feel with her body and the more turned on she’ll get.

#3 Sensual Massage

A lengthy sensual massage is sure to turn your lady on. If you don’t know how to give a massage, check out our article here! Our guide has plenty of setting ideas, instructions and videos that will walk you through the process.

#4 Warm Her Up with Texts

Sending your partner naughty texts through the day will get her engine going well before you get to the bedroom. It doesn’t even need to include a picture; in fact, I prefer if it doesn’t. Simple words about how you can’t wait to ravage her or how you’re thinking about her soft voluptuous breasts will have her quivering at the door when you get home. The extra effort will pay off big time!

#5 Set the Mood

Love scenes in movies don’t have candles and rose petals on the bed for nothing! It works! Light a few candles, put on some baby-making music and lay her down on a bed of fresh flower petals. She’ll feel special, sexy and adored.

#6 Use Aphrodisiacs

There’s no shame in calling in some extra help from our good friends; red wine, dark chocolate and cinnamon. All three have shown to be amongst the top aphrodisiacs for women. Whether she consumes it during dinner or in the bedroom doesn’t really matter. Just don’t have her try the cinnamon challenge! Note: Bonus points if you bake something with chocolate and cinnamon!

#7 Change Up Positions

If you’ve been together for a while now, you’re probably in a routine. Does this sound familiar—start in missionary, flip over to doggy-style and climax. Uninventive sex is sure to have her snoozing. Surprise her with a new position. Standing in front of a full-length mirror is a personal favourite of mine. If she’s a little shy or insecure about her body, go back to tip #2 and compliment her curves.

#8 Act Out Her Fantasies

When’s the last time you asked your woman what she fantasizes about? Men often overlook this simple source of information. Ask your partner what she desires. You might be surprised by her response. If she tells you she doesn’t have a fantasy, she’s lying and needs more time to warm up before she divulges. You can coax her by being sincere in your quest to please her, and with time she’ll be sharing her wildest dreams for you to fulfil. Just be prepared to follow through!

#9 Find Her Clit

You can ignore every other item on this list and still turn her on with this one tip. Her clitoris is the magic button to her sexual energy. Let her guide you if you’re not sure how much pressure to apply while you massage and stroke it with your fingers or tongue. If you’re having trouble, you can always ask her for a tutorial on how she likes it. The fact you’re asking and focused on turning her on will stimulate her mind. Because it takes women longer to get aroused sexually, you’ll need to spend more than 2 minutes here.

#10 Cuddle

It’s not that hard, guys! After you’ve done the deed, you need to spend some time reassuring her. Let her know how much you enjoyed it with a few complimentary words, and hold her close in your arms. Personally, I love when my husband scratches my back or runs his fingers through my hair after we’ve climaxed. She’ll be smitten with the extra affection, and she’ll remember it the next time you’re feeling frisky.

Conclusion

So there you have it, folks—a foolproof guide on how to turn your woman on and arouse her sexually. Unlike men, women need to get mentally hot before they give their bodies over to you. Pay attention to what makes her smile, and you’ll never fail to get her turned on again.

If you are looking for more great ways to add some intimacy to your relationship, then check out Karin’s other guide here.

Karin Freeland is the author of the comedic tell-all memoir, The Ins and Outs of My Vagina: A Penetrating Memoir. She recounts the mishaps and misadventures of her life with a special partner in crime, her vagina named V. Available now online at Amazon. Be sure to follow her on Instagram @karinfreeland for more great advice and updates on the book.